avoiding the wrong friends

Avoiding the Wrong Friends

Friends. I've been fortunate at each new home to find one or two close friends. Not every friendship ended well, though. In fact, some splits were downright painful. Can we tell the difference between good friends and people who may not be good for us? What things should alert us to be on guard?
Say no without guilt

Saying No without Guilt

How many times have you agreed to do something when you really didn't want to? Said yes, when you'd prefer to say no. Let guilt rule.
Military Families Bible (box)

Supporting Military Families [Giveaway!]

Many of you are either military or part of a military family. Or love and support a military family.

Military Families BibleThat’s why I’m excited to introduce to you the new Military Families Bible by B&N Publishing!

This beautiful, imitation leather Bible (Holman Christian Standard version) includes thirty devotions and thirty prayers written by military authors for military families.

  • Seeking fulfillment in your life as a military spouse? This Bible has a devotion for that — written by me!
  • Feeling alone during deployment? Yep, a devotion for that too.
  • Need a prayer for trusting God’s provision during seemingly dire circumstances? Chaplain (Colonel) John Laing wrote one specifically for that.
  • Want some guidance to know how to pray for your solider, sailor, airman, or Marine to follow orders wisely and accurately?
Read the rest
8 Best Books

8 Best Books of My Year

I know most of you are readers and like to hear about great new books or authors. Every couple of months I try to help you out by updating you on something in the publishing world.

In February, I listed ten excellent authors you may not have heard of, and if you missed that post, you can find it here.

This month, I want to share with you the eight best books I’ve read so far this year.

Fiction Books

207068521. A.D. 30 by Ted Dekker. Phenomenal. More than once I identified with the thoughts of the main character, although our lives are tremendously different. I love her interactions with Jesus, but more than that, I was particularly struck by her conversation with Stephen. … Read the rest

4 Tips to be Less Busy

Less Busy so I’m of Heavenly Good

If you missed last week’s post on being too busy, you might want to go read it first (click here to find it). It generated a few comments like, “Ouch!”

I’d say I’m sorry but it wouldn’t be genuine, so let’s just keep going.

Everyone is busyAlmost everyone I know is busy. Common replies when I ask how people are include treading water, hanging in there, and just trying to survive until [some date in the future]. I’ve been there and said those things too.

To be honest, this is on my heart and mind right now because my doctor recently confronted me with the realities of stress in my life. Nothing serious or life threatening, but definitely something to take note of.

Some of the turmoil stems from sources I cannot control.… Read the rest

Are you too busy?

Too Busy to Be of Earthly Good

I'm busy, busy, dreadfully busy. How many of you agree? How many of you stress over the fullness of your calendar? Over balancing work and husband and kids and life?
Power of Words

The Power of Your Words

A spirit of negativity is rampant in America. Probably the world, but definitely the United States.

Power of WordsThis past weekend I spoke to a small group of military women, and I heard comments, problems, and concerns much like those in every other military town I know. But whether the group of women I’m with is military or civilian, I hear a common problem among them: we speak with a lot of negative words and tones.

Don’t worry. I’m talking about myself here too.

What Does the Bible Say about Our Words?

This is bigger than positive thinking. Bigger than the annoying people who pop out of bed with a smile on their face. In fact, it goes deeper than most of us like to think about. In Ephesians 4:29, Paul tells us:

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Read the rest
Life is falling apart

When Life is Falling Apart

What should you do when it feels like life is falling apart? For those of you who just had some Christian answer cross your mind, how close does your behavior mirror it when a storm is raging around you?

Maybe you are in the midst of a storm right now that seems overwhelming. Giving up would be the easier path, but you really just want God to show up and tell you exactly what He wants you to do.

Wouldn’t that be nice? A billboard from God with step-by-step instructions?

And yet, He doesn’t do that, at least not in the way we want. Of course, we have lots of instructions in the Bible. And in the Gospels Jesus gave us several examples of what to do when life gets hard.… Read the rest

Responsible for Others?

Are You Responsible for Others? [part 2]

You might think I let you off the hook last week. After all, I aimed most of the responsibility for getting through a difficult time at the person going through the struggle.

Responsible for Others?And I stand by everything I said. [If you missed it, you may want to go back and read it first by clicking here.]

But the picture I presented was incomplete. I hinted at a bigger picture a couple of times, but I never went into more detail — in part because the post was already about 30% longer than I like to put out for you to read.

This is a huge topic, one that gets a lot of us into trouble. We hurt friends and family members, often inadvertently or because we too are hurting.… Read the rest