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God’s in Charge, Page 2

While my head knows that God is in control, sometimes I fight Him being in charge. Here I share what I’m learning.

Why wouldn't God answer?

When Heaven is Silent

The issue weighed heavily on my mind. My mind circled the arguments, processing the positives and negatives, trying to determine the best way forward. Yet I wasn't sure what to do, and it felt like God wasn't adding His two cents worth. Why wouldn't He answer? Where was a billboard with God's instructions? Or at least some confirmation from a mature believer on which way was the better way? What do you do when Heaven is silent?
Emotions are funny things.

Trusting the Lord Instead of Our Feelings

Relationships are hard, and trusting the Lord with them is rarely easy. One devastating time in my marriage is crystal clear in my memory. My husband hadn’t slept in two days because of an undiagnosed medical issue and was highly irritable. We fought, and he raced off on his motorcycle. I ran to our room, sat on the edge of the bed, and sobbed. I contemplated divorce, even knowing that wasn’t the answer. I didn't want to stay, but at the same time I didn't want to leave. I felt trapped. Alone. This brief story from my life relates just one time when despair threatened to overwhelm me. When emotions could have determined my choices. When I could have easily followed my heart right out of my marriage. Emotions are funny things. They surge to the surface without effort and can control us if we aren’t careful. Many people advise you to follow your heart, but that's dangerous advice.
A new year. A fresh start.

New Year, New Goals … Right?

A new year. A fresh start. Many of you have set resolutions or goals for 2017. Some of you have already messed them up. That's okay! Start again. Progress is about moving forward, even if it's imperfect. I'm a big believer in goals. If I don't have something to aim for then I get lazy. I meander. I wander through life rather than seeking out the next great thing God has for me. But when I consider the past year and what I'd like to see done in the next, I get excited about the possibilities. Even when the last year had some bumps and twists that were neither planned for nor fun to walk through. I suspect, many of you run into the same big problem I do: What goals should I set? What if I set my sights too high? Or too low? What if I set one goal and something that seems better comes along?
What was the best of the best?

The Best of 2016

What a year! In 2016, I graduated a son (my toughest student), published two new books for military spouses, and one new fiction novelette. What was the best of the best? What did you, my readers, like most? It was a mesh of military tips (like surviving a military move), friendship advice (avoiding the wrong friends), and finding what the Bible says about how involved we are supposed to be in each others lives. But to read the best of the best, or remind yourself of what you read earlier this year, this is the place to start.
Is it okay to walk away?

Repairing a Broken Relationship

I'd hurt her feelings, and she didn't want to talk to me. I gave her some time and space, yet a couple weeks later she still wouldn't talk to me. Our relationship felt irreparably broken. How can you heal a broken relationship? Should you always seek restoration, or does the Bible tell us that sometimes it's okay to walk away? And what if the other person refuses to talk to you about it? These are big questions, but important ones. Let's start with a more foundational one: How important are relationships?
What if God says no?

When God Says No

What's your first thought when God says no? Sour grapes? What you were asking for probably wasn't any good anyway. Temper tantrum? God never really loved you or listened to you in the first place. Quiet acceptance? God knows what is best and wants to bless you with it, so whatever happens is okay with you. Something different? When we moved to Malmstrom Air Force Base in Montana, we were given the choice of two houses ....
This is the worst political race. Or is it?

The Critics Got it Wrong

‘Tis the season of politics, where candidates spout promises they can’t keep, and critics discredit their words, thoughts, and actions. One side speaks idealistically to their followers; the other side answers with generalizations or exaggerations to demean their opponent.

Critics have been around for thousands of years.And every election year, I hear multiple people claim this is the ugliest, mud-slinging-est, nastiest political race ever.

But is it? After all, critics have been around for thousands of years.

Examples from the Old Testament

Think through the Old Testament stories you know. Do you really think no one criticized Noah as he built a giant boat in the desert? Or Abraham’s parents didn’t haven’t something unpleasant to say when he left all he knew for places unknown?

Maybe you remember the story of the prophet Elijah standing up to his detractors in a great battle involving sacrificed bulls and fire from heaven?… Want to read more?

Do you believe God knows everything?

God Knows Everything? Really?

What if God (as in, it was unquestioningly clear that it was God) asked you to pack up and leave your family and friends? What if God asked you to fight for a people who were being devalued and mistreated? Did your heart and mind jump forward, ready to pack your bags? Or did you hesitate? Your heart just revealed your true beliefs to you. Deep in your heart, your are acting on one of these three foundations: 1. God knows everything and what He's asking is for my best, now matter what it looks like. 2. God only knows everything. But He either can't or doesn't care to control everything. 3. God doesn't really know everything. These are tough statements that I tend to wrestle with during those times when my life is interrupted with a problem or God asks me to do something I know I'm not capable of doing on my own. What about you?
I double dog dare you

I Double Dog Dare You

I was never much for dares as a child. I’m not highly competitive, only marginally care what most people think, and have a healthy respect for both pain and common sense. So if someone dared me to do something crazy — yeah, not happening.

Raising the stakesWhen is the last time someone double dog dared you to do something?

For those who don’t know, double dog daring someone is raising the stakes. Let’s say someone dared me to do something, and I refused. They could then double dog dare me, which meant that if I would complete the dare, they would as well.

That didn’t work on me either.

In the 1700s, knights challenged another to combat by removing his metal glove, or gauntlet, and throwing it at the feet of his chosen opponent.… Want to read more?

Impossible Things

Accomplishing the Impossible

Can you imagine accomplishing incredible things? Tackling the impossible, and succeeding? The Lord is with you, mighty warrior. Yeah, I'm talking to you. I want you to stop for a moment and consider how deeply you believe in incredible things? Not just me doing them, but you. This question is so important that it was one of the themes in my second fiction book, Ryan's Crossing. Can you imagine yourself accomplishing incredible things?