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3 steps to freedom

3 Steps to Freedom (#3 is My Favorite)

[Don't miss this week's giveaway!] Freedom. On Monday, the United States celebrated its 240th birthday. Two hundred and forty years of standing on our own two feet, as it were. Of figuring out what that means. Of discerning where the balance lies between the freedom to do as you please and the responsibility that infers. Because all freedom confers responsibility. Oh, I know. Most of us like to talk about freedom, but we'd also prefer to stay away from the responsibility aspect of it. It's nice to talk about the freedom of speech or religion or security within our homes. It's hard to talk about the damage our words can cause. It's sometimes uncomfortable to practice peace with faiths very different from our own. And it's difficult to know when you should break through a door -- whether that door is physical, mental, or emotional -- to reach the person within. Preparing to face a giant First Samuel 17 tells of the time that a giant of a man stood before King Saul and his men. "This day I defy the armies of Israel," he said. "Give me a man and let us fight each other."
I wanted God to fix it.

Stuck? Follow Apollo 8 to a Renewed Mind

I knew I needed a renewed mind, to see things God's way. But I didn't want to. I was exhausted and lonely. I felt like I was being set apart — not for some grand purpose, but left behind; unchosen, like the kid no one wants to pick for their team.
secret to forgiveness

The Secret of Forgiveness

“I don’t need to ask for your forgiveness because I didn’t do anything wrong.”

What irritated me most about that statement was the fact that the man who said it to me had he never bothered to asknever even bothered to ask what the problem was. He knew I was angry with him. I don’t hide anger well anyway, but by his actions and his words over the previous couple of weeks, I knew he knew.

Yet when I’d finally calmed down enough that I thought we could have a conversation about it, that is what he said to me. Let’s just say that his statement didn’t go over well. My mind was furious; my heart was deeply hurt.

For months I stewed, talking to God and asking for clarity.… Want to read more?

God's Financial Plan

God’s Financial Plan (And How You Can Get on It)

I remember a story my mom told about a family that lived near them early in my dad’s military career. As per usual, at the beginning of each month, the military paid their men. The wives took the grocery money to the commissary, and each month, among her other items, this neighbor would buy a huge sack of potatoes—way more than any normal family would eat in a month.
Memorial Day

How Will You Remember Memorial Day 2016?

Mrs. Barnett, this is Sgt. Smith calling to inform you that there has been an incident regarding men within your husband’s unit. We want to assure you that your husband is fine. On April 25, we regret to say that Richard Herrema was killed in action while serving his country.
avoiding the wrong friends

Avoiding the Wrong Friends

Friends. I've been fortunate at each new home to find one or two close friends. Not every friendship ended well, though. In fact, some splits were downright painful. Can we tell the difference between good friends and people who may not be good for us? What things should alert us to be on guard?

Other Military Spouses

When Kathy and I were discussing the topics to include in the Beyond Warrior’s Bride series, I asked several active-duty military spouses stationed around the world what they saw as the biggest challenges to thriving in the military. One of the overwhelming responses we got back: other military spouses.

The Key to Being a Great Friend

Who's heard this or something like it before? If you want to have friends, you have to be a friend. Growing up, I heard it quite a lot. The problem most of us have is that we were never really taught what that means.

Thinking about Love and Romance

I was in my Cinderella dress. I'd just walked the aisle, married Prince Charming, and a beautiful coach and white horse waited to take us home. The day had been perfect.