How many of you grew up hearing that God won’t give you more than you can handle? I did! Even Mother Teresa said, “I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish God wouldn’t trust me so much.” Is this concept really biblical?
I have questioned it at times in my life, like the spring I started blacking out with two small children at home and a husband deployed half-a-world away. Or the winter my 22-month old son got pneumonia and I was juggling his daily appointments and medications with my three-year tagging along, and my husband again half-a-world away. Or the move I had five days to prepare for, deal with packers, and clean a house, all with a dog and three children between the ages of two and six.
Can you relate? What overwhelming circumstances do you face?
In The Warrior’s Bride, my co-author, Kathy Barnett, talks about this. She says,
I grew up hearing that God wouldn’t give me more than I can handle. I am here to debunk that theory. I have many times in my life been given more than I can bear. Quite frankly, the military life is more than I can take at times. Having nine children is more than I know what to do with. Having those children and raising them with their daddy gone for more than ten years of deployments so far during their lifetime, not including TDYs and training, is more than I can handle. But I praise God for Philippians 4:13 that says, “I can do all this through [Christ] who gives me strength” [emphasis mine].
We are going to be given so much more than we were ever meant to handle on our own. But thankfully, God knew that, and He promises that we don’t have to face our trials alone. He says that through Him we can do all things. We can be attached to the military and learn to parent with our spouse on the other side of the planet. We can even learn to do it with great joy. It all must be done in and through Him, however, for us to find the strength to do it.
Therein lies the secret.
Even the moments of sickness and uncertainty. Even the moments of loneliness and confusion. Even the moments of feeling overwhelmed and incapable. Even when you agree with Mother Teresa and wish God didn’t trust you so much.
Even the moment you are facing right now.
If you want to read more encouragement from The Warrior’s Bride, it is available at national retail bookstores throughout the United States. And don’t think it is only suitable for military wives! Many civilian readers have said things much like this reviewer on Amazon: Wow! This book is fantastic. It’s a wonderful treasure of information for married women…military and civilian. Even though the authors promote this book as advice for military spouses, all of the principles and guidance found here are applicable for any married woman.
Here are a few quick links to the book for your convenience: