Living with a Wounded Soul

Do you or a friend live with a wounded warrior? This phrase has become somewhat common place within the military community, although its application is very broad. The following is an excerpt from The Warrior’s Bride in which I share a little of our journey when I began to see a decline in my husband after his deployment to Saudi Arabia in early 2001.

My husband had what I would label a relatively safe job when he deployed overseas with the US Air Force. He worked security details: ACPs (Access Control Points), perimeter checks, and the like. I wasn’t a fan of the nights he worked alone in deserted locations along foreign perimeters, and I liked his gate detail checking for bombs on incoming vehicles even less. But to him? He was just doing his job.

2014 0819That’s a common phrase for our veterans, but the question becomes this: What do we do when the job comes home? I’m not talking about the stressors caused by a difficult commander, extended family issues, or tight finances. I’m talking about the soldier who comes home missing a leg. The marine who comes home badly burned. The sailor who comes home angry and distant.

The mental and physical wounds of war can sometimes be seen and sometimes only felt, but they are all very real.

For my airman, the first sign I noticed was irritability. Then decreased sleep. Then a pulling away from the family. And although I know that his multiple diagnoses over the years have helped his mental battle with everything going on medically within him, I’m not sure they’ve helped me. Sure, I have medical reasons for his temperament and behavior. But sometimes it’s still a battle for me.

This discussion really takes us back full circle to where we all started with God: Who is your Savior and Lord? Where is your trust? If Jesus is truly your Lord and the Bible is more than just a storybook, then what the Word says matters. And as much as I don’t like it some days, the truth is very simple.

I vowed before God, family, and friends to love my husband for better or for worse, in sickness and in health until death parted us. The Bible does not give me a path out if I don’t like the wounds of war.

Psalm 50:14-15 says, “Sacrifice thank offerings to God, fulfill your vows to the Most High, and call on Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor Me.”

I love that! God knew that sometimes as we fulfilled our vows we would be standing in the day of trouble. And here He promises that when we call, He will do more than hear us. More than answer us. He will deliver us.

If you’d like to read more, including the lessons God taught me through this experience, pick up your copy of The Warrior’s Bride, releasing this October!

 

If you’d like to receive these twice-weekly blog posts in your inbox, click here

If you’d like to receive my newsletter with all the latest news on my books, click here The next one is coming out in just 4 weeks!