When Kathy and I were discussing the topics to include in the Beyond Warrior’s Bride series, I asked several active-duty military spouses stationed around the world what they saw as the biggest challenges to thriving in the military. One of the overwhelming responses we got back: other military spouses.
Isn’t that disheartening? While I know it’s true from my own experience, it’s terribly sad that the very women who should be loving and supporting each other through long-distance family relationships, difficult or dangerous deployments, and frequent moves are often the ones who are the most troublesome.
Other Military Spouses
So, in my newest book, Other Military Spouses, I set out to tackle this sensitive problem. Whether you’ve been attacked by military shaming or just have trouble finding great friends, this book is for you!
I promise that God has placed some beautiful pearls of women around you. They are worth your time to seek out.
Check out the book to read more.
In case you missed it …
Kathy Barnett and I coauthored The Warrior’s Bride: Biblical Strategies to Help the Military Spouse Thrive in 2014. The book went to press, and word began to spread about this wonderful new resource written by two military wives.
While we are very happy with the book, we realized shortly after its release that we forgot to mention a couple of topics near to the hearts of many military families.
After a lot of prayer and some discussion, we decided that instead of taking a year to write another full book, we would write the additional chapters and release them individually. This allowed us to get the information to you more quickly.
And the bonus for you: it gives you the option to only purchase those chapters you want!
We still have one more to go, but here are the books currently available in eBook format for just $0.99 each.
Family. They can be one of our biggest blessings and one of our biggest stressors. Family members that don’t understand the military system can complicate your life, and sometimes the best-intentioned relative can undercut everything you are trying to build with your husband.
Living far away can also be hard if you have a medical emergency. Deployments and high ops tempos give loneliness and depression the opportunity can take over. Are there really any practical answers? What does the Bible say about dealing with and living apart from family.
Deployments are inevitable in military life. Short or long, relatively safe or extremely dangerous, time away from our men is standard issue. How can the family left behind best deal with the transition before and after deployment? And what should we do if he comes home different?
Those who deal with long separations due to a career know that the first weeks back can be trickier than when you first began living together as a couple, particularly if the mission was stressful or life-threatening. While the Bible doesn’t specifically mention reintegration, God still gives us great advice on preparing our hearts and minds so that our marriage can thrive even through Reintegration.
We’ve got orders! As many military spouses know, these simple words change your life. Whether you are moving just a couple of states over or around the world, a flurry of activity is about to consume your calendar. Where do you start? How do you begin to process all your emotions or prepare your children to say goodbye to their friends? How do you know if you need to host a yard sale or even what your weight limit is? Take a deep breath and know that help is available. This book and the free moving checklist will get you started in the right direction.
Money. It’s one of the biggest stressors in marriages. Many live paycheck-to-paycheck, struggling to both cover all the bills and save for retirement. Often husband and wife disagree over petty expenses, forgetting that they are on the same team. But money doesn’t have to be a constant battle. Not only does the Bible give a lot of guidance, but God also provided examples of people getting it right. With a shift in focus and a little disciplined effort, you can gain control over your finances instead of your finances controlling you.