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Kathy Barnett

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Help for Military Retirement

Nine years, nine months, and five days. That’s how long my husband logged in as an active-duty airman before his medical retirement. Nine years, nine months, and five days of all the uncertainty and fluctuations that military life brings. And then a fresh uncertainty took hold: Medical Retirement. We could move wherever we wanted to move, but we would have to do it ourselves or pay someone to do it. We could pick whatever job we wanted to go after, at least as soon as our DD Form 214 was in hand. Military service and medical retirement gave my husband an advantage in the hiring process for federal jobs, but did we really want to stay tied to the Department of Defense? Health insurance. Survivor benefits. Life insurance. Commissary and exchange privileges. GI Bill benefits. We had so many new rules to learn. Job-search strategies. Resume writing. Interview protocols. Salary negotiation. My husband had so many new skills to gain. When retirement looms, where do you start?
What comes to mind?

Fulfilling Your Bucket List

If you could do anything, what would it be? Don't stop to think about money or time or health that might limit you. Just dream, and dream big! What would make your bucket list of long-term goals? Tour a famous city? Give large sums of money to causes you care about? Climb a mountain or bike a historical trail? Sleep in a tree house? Or an underwater hotel? Complete a marathon? Pet a penguin (yes, that really is a top bucket list choice!) What came to your mind as you considered the possibilities?
Want to support military families?

What Civilians Should Know about Reintegration

How many of you have seen one of those homecoming videos of a man (or woman) in uniform surprising their child or mother or another family member? I love them—don't you? They are sweet and joyous, so full of emotion. I giggle and smile and sometimes shed a few tears. I look forward to the homecoming pictures posted by my active duty friends. Everyone who knows them breathes a collective sigh of relief. Another one returned home to us, safe and sound. Things can return to normal for that family. What civilians may not know is that the hours and days after the welcome home photographs may not be so sweet. The reality of homecoming can be very different from other reunions, say when a child returns home on a college break or you travel home to visit family. If you want to support military families, this is what you should know about reintegration.
Memorial Day

How Will You Remember Memorial Day 2016?

Mrs. Barnett, this is Sgt. Smith calling to inform you that there has been an incident regarding men within your husband’s unit. We want to assure you that your husband is fine. On April 25, we regret to say that Richard Herrema was killed in action while serving his country.

Other Military Spouses

When Kathy and I were discussing the topics to include in the Beyond Warrior’s Bride series, I asked several active-duty military spouses stationed around the world what they saw as the biggest challenges to thriving in the military. One of the overwhelming responses we got back: other military spouses.
I need your help. It's easy

I Need Your Help

I need your help. It will only take two or three minutes of your time, but it could affect the family tree of another woman just like you for generations. Imagine: one simple action on your part affecting generations. That’s the kind of thing that excites me! Okay, I know … you want to know what that action is.

I need your help. It's easyReady?

I need you to pray. More than that, I need you to pray for the spouses of soldiers stationed at Fort Bragg, North Carolina.

Can we get even more specific?

Please? This is important, so let me tell you a story to help it all make more sense. The lady in the story probably isn’t new to you as I’m not the first to tell it.… Want to read more?

Warriors Bride FINALIST

Big News! An Award and a New Release

Wow! That's my most descriptive word for last week. I kept spontaneously breaking out in Snoopy dances around my house because the news I received was that big. And I'm excited to share it all with you!
Kindle Fire

Win a Kindle Fire AND Four Books!

This is the biggest giveaway I’ve ever offered! But I wanted to make it more exciting, so I asked some friends to join me. Between us, we’re giving away a FREE Kindle Fire PLUS four books to get you started reading on it!

The giveaway is open to all US mailing addresses, including APO/FPO addresses, and it end at midnight, Friday, July 3, 2015. The winner will be chosen on Saturday, July 4th. Here are the details of what’s included:

Kindle FireKindle Fire HD 6, a six-inch tablet by Amazon. It is available in black, white, magenta, citron, or cobalt–and yes, you get to choose the color! It will be purchased from Amazon and sent directly to you, so you will have all paperwork you need to exchange it if something happens to it during shipping.… Want to read more?

Reintegration

Another Book Releases!

Exciting news! Reintegration, the second book in the Beyond Warrior’s Bride series, is NOW AVAILABLE!

ReintegrationThe first book in this series, Your Extended Family, is available here for Kindle and here for Nook. It talks about dealing with family members outside your marriage and children, like your parents and siblings. Whether you live geographically close to them or on the other side of the world, it has some great tips for establishing good boundaries. I also offer some ideas for dealing with loneliness and medical appointments if you live far away from family.

In this second book, Reintegration, Kathy joins me to talk about setting up your family for success before, during, and after deployments. We discuss the mindset of the deploying member, and how you can best prepare for homecoming.… Want to read more?