The issue weighed heavily on me. My mind circled the arguments, processing the positives and negatives, trying to determine the best way forward. Yet I wasn’t sure what to do, and it felt like God wasn’t adding His two cents worth.
Why wouldn’t He answer? Where was a billboard with God’s instructions? Or at least some confirmation from a mature believer on which was the better way?
What do you do when Heaven is silent?
When Heaven is Silent, Ask 3 Questions
I’ve been in this place multiple times. It’s uncomfortable.
Sometimes it stretches my faith in places I don’t want to stretch. Other times I realize that it’s not God who is being quiet, but rather me who isn’t seeking His answer.
So I’ve learned that when it feels like God isn’t answering, I need to start by asking myself three questions.
1. Am I asking God for His opinion and expecting a response from Him?
Sometimes I sit down to pray, list out everything that’s on my heart and mind, and never bother to ask God what He thinks.
Sometimes I ask God what He thinks, but don’t really expect Him to respond.
Doubts flood my subconscious that make me hesitate. Does God still speak to people today? Would He lower Himself to speak to me? Would He say something that I could understand?
The truth is God wants to instruct us, guide us, and help us. He’s waiting for us to ask Him what to do, and His love for us dictates that He will respond.
Call to me and I will answer you. I’ll tell you marvelous and wondrous things that you could never figure out on your own. Jeremiah 33:3 (The Message)
2. Am I taking the time to listen for God’s response?
How many times have you sat in prayer, blurted out all your requests, added in a praise or two, and then got on your life?
I know. Dishes need done, the doorbell rings. Laundry is piled, and dinner won’t start itself.
But how good of a friend would you be if you were the only one who ever did any talking? How solid would that relationship be if you never sat quietly and listened to the other person?
Just like quiet, purposeful listening is necessary in friendships, it’s required in our relationship with God. Ouch, right?
So pay attention to how you hear. To those who listen to my teaching, more understanding will be given. But for those who are not listening, even what they think they understand will be taken away from them. Luke 8:18 (New Living Translation)
3. Am I obeying, doing everything He’s told me to do?
In my years of helping women, I’ve learned that some ladies just want to complain. They say they want advice, but they really just want a magic pill to make it all better. Or someone to agree with them that the other person is a jerk who should be punished.
When I come across these women, I act like a broken record, repeating myself every time they come by saying, “Have you done the last thing I told you to do?” Most of the time, the ladies realize I’m not going to listen any more, and they’ll fade on to the next person with an open ear.
More often than I’d like to admit, God must do this with me. I’m the one that wants that magic pill, or I want God to agree with me that it’s all the other person’s fault. I don’t really want to do what God’s asked of me.
I wish they would always worship me with fear and trembling and be this willing to obey me! Then they and their children would always enjoy a successful life. Deuteronomy 5:29 (Contemporary English Version)
Not 100% Accurate
Now, these questions don’t always hold the secret to times when heaven is silent. As the Bible shows us in the book of Job, occasionally something beyond the scope of our understanding is going on.
But many times, my truthful answers to these questions reveal precisely why God’s gone quiet. A bit of repentance and correction is all it takes for His input to start flowing again.