Where I Fail You [You Are Not Alone]

When I was a young warrior’s bride, I knew little about military life. I was so naive, I didn’t know what questions to ask the more experienced brides around me. I couldn’t formulate my ignorance into enough coherent thought to even begin a discussion on what the future might look like.

I have learned much over the years, through my experience and through the lives of dear friends. Military life no longer scares me, even though it occasionally troubles me. I don’t fear for my active duty friends, although worry sometimes sends me into deeper prayer for them.

It's normal hereHere at Fort Bragg, we are in a deployment cycle. To be truthful, because of the units housed here, we are always in a deployment cycle. One-quarter to one-third of the ladies who attend the military group at our church are in the midst of life while their spouse is half a world away. It’s normal here.

But that doesn’t mean we are good about talking through it. More than once I’ve sat with a young wife who is struggling with the same fears most wives face during TDYs. And I’ve realized again how poorly those of us with experience remember our initial battles.

It doesn’t even have to be about military life.

Our enemy isn’t very creative. He tends to use the same tactics, exploit the same weaknesses because, truthfully, they work. One of the key moves in his strategy is isolation.

He wants you to think you are alone.

But you’re not.

  • Other women, even women around you right now, have faced addictions.
  • Other women, even women around you right now, have conquered fear.
  • Other women, even women around you right now, have fought through pornography and infidelity.
  • Other women, even women around you right now, were terrified their man would never come home to them.
  • Other women, even women around you right now, have left abusive situations.
  • Other women, even women around you right now, have been where you are.

You are not alone.

God has placed jewels of women around youGod has placed jewels of women around you, and He wants to help you find them. He wants to walk with you through the pain and struggles you face. He wants you to thrive in the place He’s allowed you to be.

And He wants those of us who have been there watching for those we can touch. Those we can love on. Those we can point back to Him for great healing.

Come on, ladies. The Kingdom is counting on us to love each other with such an intensity that our enemy doesn’t have a chance to snatch another woman—another family—from the grand purposes God has for them.

No, fulfilling another’s destiny is not our responsibility. But God wants to use us as a part of the process.

Step on the battlefield. Look around. Find someone you can encourage today.

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Other Military Spouses: How to Find Great Friends

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Other military spouses can be one of the biggest stressors in a wife’s life. From gossipers to back-biters to spouse shamers, the problem is reaching epidemic proportions, and many don’t know what to do about it. What if you could find a better way? Instead of attacking the problem-women head on or avoiding all women entirely, what if you could find women worth knowing and cherishing?

No matter where you are, God placed around you women of great value, women who strive to love Him first, and women who want to love and encourage you. Instead of resigning yourself to a life of loneliness, let me show you who to avoid and what characteristics to look for in quality friends.

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