I picked this book up well over a year ago. In fact, I think I added it to my wishlist more than two years ago, and I received it for Christmas in 2018. It was one of those books that sounded good, thought I should read, and figured I’d probably learn something from. But then I’d pick it up and think, I don’t really want to tackle that right now. Ever been there?
I mean, just read the full title. Telling Yourself the Truth: Find Your Way Out of Depression, Anxiety, Fear, Anger, and Other Common Problems by Applying the Principles of Misbelief Therapy. Doesn’t it sound good and applicable and full of work at the same time?
If you want the whole truth, I’m glad I finally dug into it.
Our feelings are caused by what we tell ourselves about our circumstances, whether in words or in attitudes. ~William Backus, Telling Yourself the Truth
Description from Amazon: Telling Yourself the Truth
Wrong thinking produces wrong emotions, wrong reactions, wrong behavior–and unhappiness! Learning to deal with your thoughts is the first step on the road to healthy thinking.
How to handle one’s thoughts properly is what this book is all about! It explains the life-changing method the authors call Misbelief Therapy, and it can work for you.
- In your home
- In your own circumstances
- In your own problems
- In your own adverse environment
- In your own thinking
Based on the Bible, this book has helped thousands of people for many years, and it can help you!
Telling Yourself the Truth can show you how to identify your own misbeliefs and replace them with the truth.
What I Thought
It is not the end of the world if others are not thoughtful, kind or considerate. It’s merely unpleasant. ~William Backus, Telling Yourself the Truth
I’ll be honest and tell you that this book stepped on my toes and burst some bubbles. But the authors had a gentle tone that didn’t mince words or pull punches but asked me to be truthful at the same time. I’ve read other books that encourage the truth of taking thoughts captive and renewing your mind so it lines up with Scripture, but this book went a step or two further pointing out wrongful thoughts, where they clashed with Scripture, and how to correct them.
A couple of times, I had to step away from the book and consider what the authors were saying. I realized that I was uncomfortable because I didn’t necessarily want to accept full responsibility for my thoughts. I wanted someone else to bear the blame as well as shoulder the work to fix things. But while others sometimes initiate painful situations, my response is always my choice, and the thoughts I allow to circle in my mind lead toward emotions that I can change by grabbing hold of truth.
The Bottom Line – 4 stars
God is concerned with quality in our relationships. ~William Backus, Telling Yourself the Truth
This book isn’t for everyone but would likely be helpful to those who give it an honest effort. That’s not to say counseling and medication aren’t important or necessary in many situations. William Backus was a licensed clinical psychologist and Marie Chapian is a Christian counselor. However, this book could certainly aid most of us in achieving better mental and emotional health.
About the Authors
William D. Backus was the founder of the Center for Christian Psychological Services, a licensed consulting psychologist, and an ordained minister. Dr. Backus passed away in June 2005.
Marie Chapman is a Christian counselor and founded Marie Chapman Ministries to teach and equip the body of Christ.
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