I got married in the fall of 1996 with the traditional vows, a purposeful decision on my part. I wanted to say, “To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, honor, and cherish, till death do us part.”
Okay, so part of me needed to say these vows. I wanted to mean them, even though, quite honestly, I struggled with them. Now, more than twenty years later, I recognize that my struggle was with the enormity of what I was promising to do, even though I only vaguely understood the depth of the words at the time.
I read a wide variety of books, and occasionally, I like to pick up one on marriage. I like to finetune what I’m already doing, improve on weak areas, and generally learn more so I can love my husband even better. So, I looked forward to reading Craig Groeschel’s book, From This Day Forward: Five Commitments to Fail-Proof Your Marriage.
Deciding you should get divorced because you’ve run out of love is like deciding you should sell your car because it has run out of gas. No reasonable person would ever do that. You simply put more gas in your car and go on. ~Craig Groeschel, From This Day Forward
Description from Amazon
In this five-session video-based small group study (guide sold separately), New York Times bestselling author and pastor Craig Groeschel gives you five commitments to make in order to fail-proof your marriage. You know the stats, and they are horrifying. 50% of marriages don’t make it. What other area of your life are you satisfied with 50% odds against you?
The choices you make each and every day determine not only your relationship with God but also the quality of your marriage. The decisions you make today will determine the marriage you will have tomorrow. In this five-session study, you will discover five commitments that will absolutely fail-proof your marriage. If you make these commitments, you’ll discover a richer, deeper, more authentic relationship and a more rewarding, more passionate love life than you could have ever imagined
Don’t be a statistic. Don’t be average. Let’s get you that marriage that you always wanted. Starting right now—from this day forward.
- Seek God
- Fight Fair
- Have Fun
- Stay Pure
- Never Give Up
What I Thought
When the odds are fifty-fifty in an area of your life that matters, you change your behavior. ~Craig Groeschel, From This Day Forward
I found the book to be a good, easy read full of great advice. I love Craig Groeschel’s ability to break down complex subjects to their most basic components, cutting through all the side issues to the bottom line of what is most important.
While many may argue about things that truly don’t matter as much, the truth remains: If both people within a marriage will commit to God first, then to fight fair, have fun together, stay pure for and to each other, and refuse to ever give up, then a good, long marriage is not just possible. It’s overwhelmingly probable. I’ve seen these principles at work in my own marriage and those of friends around me, and what Pastor Groeschel teaches within this book can truly make a tremendous difference in your marriage too.
But, it’s critical to remember that the advice relies heavily on both people within the marriage being willing to do the work, which is where any advice on improving your marriage must end. If you are not willing to take an honest look at where you are weak, where you are failing or taking unnecessary offense, where you are unwilling to change, then every marriage book and counselor is limited in the help they can provide.
The Bottom Line – 5 stars
The only combination that works for marriage is to make God the One and your spouse the two. ~Craig Groeschel, From This Day Forward
When God is placed as the first priority in your life and your spouse is placed second, marriage works better. Pastor Groeschel does an excellent job pointing this out and then providing additional guidelines that can vastly improve your relationship. If you are married and willing to work on yourself as well as your marriage, this is a great resource.
About the Author
Craig Groeschel is the founding and senior pastor of Life.Church, a multisite church with attenders at locations around the United States and globally at Life.Church Online. Craig and Amy started Life.Church in a two-car garage in Edmond, Oklahoma in January 1996. While Life.Church has grown over the years, its mission remains the same: to lead people to become fully devoted followers of Christ. Craig and Amy married in 1991 and have six children. They live in the Edmond, Oklahoma area where Life.Church began.
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